NEEDS FEARS CONTROL COMPLIANCE
WOMEN NEED TO REPRODUCE, A NEST, SECURITY IN THE NEST, SO-CALLED BEADS (JEWELRY) BANGLES (FLOWERS), AND A MINIMUM 20 MINUTES OF ATTENTION FROM A MAN EACH DAY! MEN NEED SEX AND A ROOF OVER THEIR HEADS. TOO OFTEN, WE ARE AFRAID TO EXPRESS OUR NEEDS BECAUSE WE MAY NOT GET THEM FILLED! WOMEN MAY BE AFRAID OF MEN'S ANGER AND MEN BE AFRAID OF REJECTION. WE HINT AT OUR NEEDS, MINIPULATE OTHERS TO GET OUR NEEDS MET, OR OUT RIGHT TAKE CHARGE AND CONTROL! i THINK MANY OF MALE/FEMALE CONFLICTS RESULT JUST FROM THE NON-EXPRESSION OF OUR NEEDS TO EACH OTHER. WE HAVE NOT BEEN EDUCATED TO EMOTIONAL EXPRESS OUR BASIC, NATURAL NEEDS IN A THOUGHTFUL AND FEELINGS WAY! THE RESULT IS CONFLICT AND SOMETIMES A LOT OF CONFLICT, HURT, AND TRAUMA BOTH PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL. WELL, IT'S GOT TO STOP NOW!
WE SPEAK ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIPS IN CO-DEPENDENCY MEETINGS AND OUR MALE/FEMALE RELATIONSHIPS ARE REVEALED BY PARTICIPANTS. I BELIEVE THE CORE OF OUR CONFLICTS COME FROM THE UNFILLED NEEDS. DAYAD, MIRROR WORK, AND PEER COUNSELING WITH EACH OTHER CAN HELP TO ALIEVATE THE CONFLICT. WE CAN LEARN TO EXPRESS EMOTIONALLY OUR FEELINGS AND EXPRESS OUR THOUGHTS IN A LOVING AND COMPASSIONATE WAY. WE CAN LEARN TO ACCESS, CONNECT WITH, AND RELEASE OUR INTENSITY OF FEARS AS IT REFLECTS OUR UNFULFILLED NEEDS!
BEST
JOEL V.
