"PETER'S JUDGEMENTAL DAD"
PETER HAS BEEN EMOTIONAL STUCK FOR YEARS! HIS DAD WAS CRITICAL OF HIM REGARDLESS OF HOW HARD HE TRIED TO PLEASE HIS FATHER. THE CRITICISM MAINLY MANIFESTED ITSELF IN PETER'S INABILITY TO LOSE WEIGHT. EVERYTIME HE SUCCEEDED IN LOSING WEIGHT HE PUT THE WEIGHT ON AGAIN AND EVEN MORE SO! PETER WAS VERY FRUSTRATED. HIS DAD'S JUDGEMENTS JUST GOT IN THE WAY OF ANY ACCOMPLISHMENT IN HIS LIFE. HE JUST DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO EMOTIONALLY TO STOP THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS IN HIS HEAD. I COUNSELED HIM SPIRITUALLY AND SUGGESTED THAT HE EMOTIONALLY CONNECT WITH HIS FEELINGS OF FRUSTRATION (ANGER) REGARDING HIS DAD AND BEGIN TO CREATE AN EMOTIONAL OPEN SPACE FOR HIMSELF TO ACCESS THE FEELINGS REFLECTIVE OF THE RANGE OF EMOTIONS, HIS ANGER THROUGH RAGE, FEAR THROUGH TERROR, AND SADNESS THROUGH GRIEF. BOTH SPIRITUAL COUNSELING AN ANIMATED LAUGHTER WITH FEELINGS PRACTICE ENABLED PETER TO MAKE A BREATHTHROUGH! PETER BECAME UNSTUCK AND HAD FUN DOING IT. AS ALWAYS, THE RESISTANCE TO FEELINGS HIS EMOTIONS WERE CLEAR AND EVIDENT. WITH PERSISTENCE, PETER WAS ABLE TO MOVE THROUGH THE SHEER FEAR THAT INHIBITED HIM FROM FEELING HIS FEAR. HE WAS TERRIFIED OF HIS DAD'S JUDGEMENTS ABOUT HIS SUCCEEDING AT ANYTHING. WE WERE ABLE TO ADDRESS HIS SHYNESS AS WELL AND HE LEARNED THAT HIS SHYNESS WAS IN FACT THE RESULT OF HIS INTERNALIZED FEARS REFLECTIVE OF HIS DADS AGGRESSIVE BEHAVIOR TOWARD HIM FROM CHILDHOOD. PETER WAS ABLE TO ATTEND OVEREATERS ANONYMOUS AND FIND HELP FOR HIS OVEREATING. HE ACQUIRED A SPONSOR TO GIVE HIM SUPPORT AS WELL. PETER NEEDED JUST TO BE LOVED AND HE NEEDED TO LOVE HIMSELF. PETER NEED TO PRACTICE ON A DAILY BASIS "ANIMATED LAUGHTER AND RELEASE HIS FEELINGS OF FEAR, ANGER, AND SADNESS, REGARDING HIS DAD. HIS PRACTICE AND THERAPY HAD TO BE DISCIPLINED, AND TENACIOUS.BEST
JOEL V.
