Manipulation
“MANIPULATION”
Our present, past, and chronic (sometimes frozen) unfulfilled needs can take charge of our behavior. Our unfulfilled needs can perpetuate a sense of or lack of self-acceptance. Our self-worth and esteem can suffer. This in turn can cause us to experience fear and a sense of anxiety. If we do not have an awareness of how our unfulfilled needs can trigger fear; we can then experience a struggle for emotional self-acceptance. It’s the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotions as it reflects unfulfilled frozen needs which have been repressed and are ingrained to the point of them being hard wired in our emotional bodies. They are hidden from our awareness. However, it’s the different intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror that reflect unfulfilled frozen chronic “need” that cause and that can impact low or a struggle with self-worth and self- esteem which in turn can impact healthy behaviors. We can experience grief and dysfunction. Our unfulfilled needs can result in both depression and anxiety and lack of self-acceptance. The DSM-IV diagnosis of manic depressive and bi-polar are quite common as a result.
When we shed, release, relinquish our deep seated, hard wired feelings, reflective of the emotion of fear then once again begin to integrate ourselves and once again experience a sense of self-acceptance, enhanced self-esteem, self-worth.
We can interrupt the pattern of low self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-esteem through and by practicing ALWF!
Our fear creates pain! We can suppress our pain and it can become ingrained in our emotional body. We then can become unaware of how our ingrained fear and its relationship to our unfulfilled needs can take charge of our behaviors.
Our ingrained fear reflects our unfulfilled (chronic) needs which can result in an unaware attempt to manipulative others to fill them. We become desperately terrified of our being, being rejected by others. We commonly label this as “insecurity”. The rejection amplifies our behavior to manipulate others to comply with and fill our chronic needs. They can cause us to irrationally manipulate others to get our unfulfilled needs (met) filled!
Control by laying guilt trips on others to fill our unfulfilled chronic frozen needs is all too common.
It’s our internalized fear of not getting our frozen needs met which can motivate us to become manipulative in our relationship with and to others. Our unaware frozen terror can perpetuate a behavior of manipulation and control over others. We unaware or aware manipulate others with an attempt to control! We take advantage of them. We falsely empower ourselves by attempting to control others and attempt to get others to comply with our unfulfilled chronic (sometimes frozen) needs.
If and when we make a conscious decision to transcend, transform our destructive, destructive behavior that we perpetuate upon others; we then can become aware of our underlying terror, belief, value, or personality trait, as it reflects our manipulation; it is than that we can begin to effectively address it.
We can effectively and efficiently address the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotion, fear through terror with ALWF.
As we gradually release the intensity of feelings; our unfulfilled chronic needs begin to dissipate and our “need” to manipulate and control others diminishes. Our need to control and our need for others to comply with filling our unfulfilled chronic needs dissipate. We empower ourselves authentically and reintegrate a part of ourselves lost when we were severely traumatized in and from the past.
When we meet human beings who have frozen unfulfilled chronic needs who have the tendencies to exhibit controlling, manipulative behaviors we can learn to set boundaries by saying no! We can set our boundaries! It requires that we have enough self-confidence and trust in ourselves to set firm boundaries. We can set boundaries without building walls between ourselves and them! We can accomplish this by staying alert and aware of our own feelings and emotions. If we are afraid to say no because of our own helplessness then we must address the intensity of our own feelings reflective of our own fear through terror and develop the emotional muscle to confidently say “no”.
We can set boundaries without building walls between ourselves and those that harbor controlling, manipulative behaviors. We can become emotionally strong “enough” to refrain from complying with others unfulfilled needs. We can address our own fears of rejection effectively and efficiently as well by practicing ALWF. In doing so, we develop the emotional muscle, trust, and self-confidence to stand-up for ourselves and just not go along with our beings, being manipulated and controlled. We just stop complying with others unfulfilled chronic needs. We take charge!
There is no room for denial in becoming aware of our frozen chronic needs as it reflects neither the cause of our need to control, or manipulate others nor the pull of our need to comply with our own unfulfilled need to be accepted by others; or our fear of rejection by others. We need to learn and learn again and develop more of our own self-acceptance. We can achieve this goal through feeling the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotions fear through terror, anger through rage, sadness through grief by practicing in a consistent manner ALWF.
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“MANIPULATION”
