ANNOYANCE PHONE CALLS! (NEED FOR ATTENTION?)
DO YOU RECEIVE ANNOYANCE PHONE CALLS? PEOPLE CALL AND SAY NOTHING, AFTER YOU ANSWER AND SAY HELLO? I AM NOW RECEIVING ANNOYANCE PHONE CALLS. I BELIEVE THE PHONE CALLS ARE AN EXAMPLE OF ACTING OUT. IT'S A CRY FOR ATTENTION. THE CALLER IS IN NEED FOR SOMEONE TO BE THERE FOR THEM! I UNDERSTAND THE NEED. UNFORTUNATELY, IT'S JUST NOT A HEALTHY METHOD TO GET THE NEED FILLED. I CERTAINLY HAVE COMPASSION FOR THOSE WHO ARE IN NEED. WE ALL HAVE NEEDS AND IT'S UNHEALTHY EMOTIONALLY TO SATISFY THEM BY CALLING OTHERS AND ANNOYING THEM. WE ARE NOT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE BEHAVIOR. IF YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS CALLING, IT'S TIME TO STOP IMMEDIATELY!
WE LOOK AT AND ADDRESS THE FEELINGS REFLECTIVE OF THE EMOTIONS THAT PERPETUATE THESE BEHAVIORS. WE INTRUDE UPON THE BOUNDARIES OF OTHERS WHEN THE IRRATIONAL BEHAVIOR DOES NOT STOP! IT'S IRRATIONAL TO PERPETUATE THE BEHAVIOR. WE HURT ONLY OURSELVES IN DOING SO!
I WRITE ABOUT THE THREE CATEGORIES OF GOING INTO, CONNECTING, AND LETTING GO AND BELIEVE IT'S THE ONLY WAY TO CLOSE THE GAP FILLED WITH PAIN AND RESLOVE THE HURT AND OR TRAUMAS THAT ARE WITHIN OUR SELVES EMOTIONALLY IN OUR LIVES. IT TAKES TIME AND DAILY WORK TO RESOLVE CHRONIC NEEDS. I'VE TAKEN RESPONSIBILITY TO RESOLVE MY OWN!
WE MUST SET BOUNDARIES. THE TWELVE STEP PROGRAMS LIKE CO-DEPENDENCE ANONYMOUS REQUIRE AND UNDERSTANDING OF BOUNDARY SETTING. WE MUST SET BOUNDARIES IN OUR LIVES WHEN OTHERS INTRUDE UPON OUR PEACE OF MIND. WE MUST SET BOUNDARIES, IF WE CANNOT COMMUNICATE WITH THOSE WHO REFUSE TO COMMUNICATE. OUR ACTIONS MUST BE DECISIVE AND DEFINITIVE.
BEST
JOEL V.
