The Power of Using Right Brain Emotional Methods to Connect with Your Spiritual Power!
The Power of Using Right Brain Emotional Methods to Connect with Your Spiritual Power:
It’ clearly totally underestimated by western religions and even frowned upon using right brain emotional methods to connect with the spiritual power. Western Religions are totally inept in facilitating connection with the Spiritual Power by emotional methods. I think the chief reason is “fear” and “patterns” that reflect fear, ignorance, dogma, doctine, symbolism, money, greed, and ego among perhaps just some reasons. The fear of alienating the participants at their services is yet another reason. It needs to and must change!
The use of peer counseling, breath methods, manifestations of emotional release can only be learned.
Spiritual leaders in the west are uncomfortable feelings their feelings reflective of their emotions again, and again, and again. They are reluctant to do so and reluctant to learn emotional methods that facilitate effective, efficient, and disciplined methods to process, process, process dissonant emotional energies. Instead, they will attempt to facilitate connection with the Spiritual Power by way of intellectualizing. Well, it doesn’t work using only, only, only the left brain thinking. Both left and right brain must be used to succeed!
I’m taking leadership next month teaching “Animated Laughter with Feelings” at the First Spiritualist Church in San Diego Califonria, located at 3777 42nd Street, 92105, phone 619-284-4646. The date is Sunday, February 19th. The presentation is at 11:00 a.m. and the workshop is at 1:30P.M. in Blair Hall. All are welcome to participate. It’s $18.00 for non-members and 15 dollars for members. Check out the video on youtube.com by writing in the address bar “Animated Laughter with Feelings”.
We’ll be using the cognitive and emotional facultites to powerfully connect with our Higher Power”! Come, Cleanse, Co-operate, and Conquer your dissonant energies and transform them into connection with your “Spiritual Power”!
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Joel V. BA, Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Right Brain/Emotion/Spirituality
We often think in terms of connecting spiritually with our higher power through thought. We use prayer as our go to method. The power of connection comes from our left brain! We seldom think of connecting with “God” our higher power with our emotions, our right brain.
I’ve written quite a bit about the importance of learning different methods to process emotionally and therefore connect spiritually with our right brain. It’s significantly more powerful to connect emotionally with our higher power by way of our right brain.
It’s in our emotions that we experience hurt/trauma! It’s therefore in clearing our hurt/trauma emotionally and transforming ourseves can we best connect with our higher power. It’s the reason I’ve written endlessly about different emotional processes that we can go to and cleanse ourselves of hurt/trauma.
February 19th at the First Spirtiualist Church in San Diego, California; I’ll be presenting at 11:00 a.m. and teaching a class in Animated Laughter with Feelings. The fee for the class is $18.00 for non-members and $15.00 for members of the church. Please bring a mat or blanket to the class.
Please come and participate at both events and please remember to buy my books, hire me for consulting, holistic counseling, coaching, and presentations.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters in Psycholgoy, Human Behavior.
Live Free or Die!
“Live Free or Die” is used by the State of New Hampshire (The Granite State) located in the northeastern part of the United States. I focus on their cliche for two reasons. The first one being the Republican Primary Election which Governor Romney is expected to win Tuesday, and the other reason is unless we emotional learn to free ourselves from emotional/physical distress, hurt, and trauma our lives can be experienced as a prison. The emotional painful walls can become quite high and quite thick.
It can take a lifetime to acquire the awareness and the effecitive methods to address the issues to free ourselves from bondage. “Feeling” our feelings is most certainly a solution but there are many resolutions of our incarceration.
It’s Tuesday evening and the three top winners of the New Hampshire Primary are in descening order Romney, Paul, and Huntsman. If I could vote in New Hampshire; I’d vote for Newt and for Jon. I like Newt the best only because he is definitely a man who reflects flexible intelligence and has the life experience as well. I really liked his immigration policy. It was the most nuanced I’ve listened to. I also like Newt’s opinion of Romney as well. Unfortunately, I’ve listened to a lot of bravado, ego, and words without consciousness and substance from many of the candidates. However, I’ve heard some, some good heart felt and intelligent thinking as well; like that from Newt! I listen to politics a great deal. Once, I particpated by supporting a presidential nominee and it was a lot of fun to do so. Actually, it was an adventure since I traveled several hundred miles on my own to a strange city and volunteered my time for the candidate. He lost by the way.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Co-Dependence and “The Void”!
Have you been intimate with one special person or have you been in a non-intimate relationship with a special friend? Needs and “irrational needs” are met in a variety of relationships. However, when the relationship ends and you and your partner part “The Void” occurs or when you briefly separate because of an argument or dissagreement then ”The Void” occurs. Suddenly, your needs or irrational needs are no longer met. Neediness may occur. The disconnect/numbness to your feelings results. One may experience abandonment, betrayal, a sense of separation, aloneness, loneliness, irrational behavior fueled by anxiety/depressions, and an emptiness. The emotional overwhelm has set in, restimulation of overwhelming feelings, shutdown has occurred. The above are all manifestations of “The Void”.
A word about “irrational needs”. They come from just not getting all the love and nurturing one needed mainly in the formative years, ages from conception through age five when one is most in need and when one is most vulnerable to emotional/physical hurt and trauma! The result is a lack of self- acceptance, self-approval, and lower self-esteem. So, if and when one separates with a partner; it’s then the past or even present “irrational needs” and neediness bubble up in an overwhelming way and “take charge” of human behavior. The result is irrational behavior.
The irrational behavior may simply said be our worst enemy, “addictions”. It could very well be the reason why there are so, so many twelve step programs. The programs serve as well, a safety valve. I have to say, thank God for this safety value because if and when we stay in a twelve step program we learn to trust our Higher Power to make it right, make us right if and when we learn to surrender our profoundest of painful feelings! In this way we can disrupt and resolve our addictions and experience serenity.
It’s painful and the fact that it’s painful is to put it in the most modest of terms. Most but not all traditional trained licensed counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists just don’t have the depth, degree, and dimensions of training in primal sound, manifestations of emotional release, circular healing breath, twelve step spiritual methodolgies to even begin to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address the hurts/traumas with profound, penetrating, and purposeful strategies. It’s a reason why psycho-therapy can go on and on and on even with a excellent traditionally trained therapist who the client resonates with! Fortunately, their are many but in my opinion not enough caring practitioners who provide and create space for safety. They provide a safety value so and create a space for awareness and possible change. They are to be acknowledged for their efforts and success!
The underlying feelings mostly are blocked by the neediness. Often, we just get back together with the partner but “somehow” it’s not enough. The situation is not resolved. The irrational needs are repressed, surpressed and are still within the emotional body. The irrational needs are locked away. Anxiety, depression, even the need to run away occurs. It’s co-dependency.
Primal sound will unlock the irrational needs. It’s takes learning the practice and then it takes courage, will, willing intention, and the willingness of commitment to persevere and process thoroughly the feelings reflective of the emotions. We can then access the repressed, surpressed feelings and process, process, process them. It’s here and only, only, only here where the pain reflective of the irrational needs can be resolved. It’s confusing. It’s very, very, very confusing and highly co-dependent.
The situation I’ve described above is common, all too, too common and has led to the destruction of many marriages and loving relationships. However, the solution is with the will, willing intention, and willingness of commitment for the partners to address, address effectively, efficiently, with discipline the feelings reflective of the underlying painful emotions reflective of the irrational neediness and process, process, process until resolution is successful. Otherwise, the pattern of co-dependence occurs again, and again, and again. It’s important that I repeat myself in these paragraphs because few truly get it!
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Co-dependence and Teen Sex Exploitation
Just a word on the outbreak of co-dependence and female teen sex exploitation. The result of the economic downturn has resulted in an explosion of teen sex exploitation. Teens can be vulnerable emotionally, economically, and sexually. Young run away female teens are easily seduced by pimps into their stable for money making reasons. So, teens beware of men who can be politely seductive or can be intimidating and forcefully acquire your attention which results in your enslavement and your sexual exploitation for profit and gain.
Seducements vary from promises of love, money, security, and stability. It’s all a come-on to acquire you as a money making venture for the pimp. So, please if you are solicited by an internet site beware of the intentions of the male involved. Seducement, manipulation can also come from female solicitors as well. It’s all patterns of co-dependence!
The word of advice is to trust your instincts and voice your opposition to any emotional exploitation expecially if it’s a physical threat of bodily harm by the pimp. Please remember you are a valuable worthwhile person so take charge and leave a situation that is harmful. It’s about control and your conpliance with the exploitation. Remember you have the power!
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Busines Admin. M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Relationships – Clearing Stress/Distress
The goal of relationships is to bring more joy, support, fun, expand our mental, emotional, spirit & spiritual life, physical, social, heart, soul, creative, and intuitive faculties. Unfortunately, as two people get to know each other stresses and restimulation of old distresses occur. The stresses and distresses get in the way of partners having fun, enjoying/supporting each other and expanding the ten components of the self as I described above!
It’s important for both partners to take leadership and spearhead both alertness and awareness to the subtle stress and distress that streams into the relationship. It’s bound to occur. Often, the stress and distress creeps up and into the relationship unawarely. It could be because of a variety of stesses, past distresses, money, family, chores, shopping, habits, irritations, sensitivities, food, living conditions and denial.
We look to the five components for the reasons for profound distress, developmental, genetic, biological, environmental, and our experiences. The old controvery of nature/nurture is debatable!
Often, needs of individuals just don’t get filled, the result is unfulfilled needs/neediness. The needs, and neediness creatures are placed into the relationship. The result can be unaware manipulations both one or the other partner. The manipulations facilitate patterns reflective of the four categories of co-dependence, control, compliance, denial, and low self-esteem for both partners. The patterns take charge and the relationship gradually becomes dysfunctional and unhealthy! The loving wears away.
It’s therefore important for the partners to have their go to practices dyad, peer counseling, mirror work, yoga, tantra, twelve step groups as resources in the relationship. Both partners must encourage each other to participate in practices that resonate with themselves. They must encourage each other to be consistent, persevering, a will, show a willing intention, and a willingness to stay committed to process their stress and distresses. Fear will always come bubbling up when the going gets tough. It’s here where courage is essential and individuals must stay connected to their higher power. The spiritual connection is essential if and when “frozen needs” take charge in the relationship. The practice of primal sound to “access the feelings” then becomes essential for the release, relinquishment, discharge, and the letting go of dissonant emotions to take place.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Santa and his Twenty Elves!
Ten female Elfs and ten Male Elves came to Santa Claus and complained that there was just too, too, much emotional and physical pain among too, too many of earths inhabitants! The Elves claimed that the people of the earth had too, too much co-dependence of patterns reflecting manipulations of control, compliance, “denial”, and low self-esteem issues. The unhappiness was undeniable and Santa Claus decided to tell his twenty Elves the secrets of healing. He gave each pair the information and instructed them to educate and follow-up the information to determine if the people of earth were succeeding at learning the secrets of healing.
Santa instructed each pair on and about their unique healing practice. Santa deciminated the power of connected circular breath to the first pair, primal sound to the second, animated laughter to the third, the yawn to the fourth, shaking/hot/cold sweating in relationship to fear to the fifth, prayer/scratching (the pain is under my skin and I need to just get it out) to the sixth pair, sobbing to the seventh pair, crying as it relates to grief to the eighth pair. verbally connecting with the emotional/physical pain and expressing it verbally in an animated way to the ninth pair, and finally expressing anger in a variety of ways as well as devotional singing to the tenth pair.
Santa placed emphasis on the necessity that the people of earth needed to do “enough” connection, release, relinquishment, discharge, and letting go of their dissonant energies for their healing and redemption to manifest itself into joy, happiness, well-being, cooperation with each other.
Santa told the Elves that they must educate the people of the earth to support each other in a loving and compassionate, heart felt way. He told the Elves to make sure the people of the earth did not stay in their heads with thoughts and rationalize their feelings. Santa also told the elves to tell earth’s inhabitants not to ignore, repress, suppress, block their emotional frustrations or their feelings. He directly said to the Elves that the people of the earth must “feel their feelings reflective of the range of emotions, anger through rage, fear through terror, and sadness through grief. He asked the Elves to make sure that the people of the earth learn to connect with their sp;iritual power as a result of these practices. He asked that the elves report to him in a year their results.
Well, the Elves report is still pending……………………………
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology Human Behavior.
EGO, EGO, EGO!
Could it be that it’s the unaware EGO that gets in the way of people cooperating in relationships. EGO is short for Edging God Out! Perhaps the EGO sounds like the following. After all “It’s all, all, all about me isn’t it”. I have the right to complain. It’s I who am opinionated. I’m the one whose in the right. I’m self-rightous. I’m the one who is allowed to make judgments of others. It doesn’t matter whether my judgments, my pre-judgments may be awarely or unawarely made. I’m inconsiderate of others thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and values. It’s only mine that mean anything. Others should, should, should behave in the way that I believe they should act. They, they have no right to their beliefs, values, opinions, ideas, and habits. They have no right to frustrate me. I have the right to control others thoughts, opinions, ideas, values, and beliefs. I will only consider my own wants, desires, needs, and neediness. It’s my, my, my wants, desires, needs, and neediness that must be filled, satisfied now, now, now! It’s the other who is wrong for not satisfying my wants, desires, needs, and neediness. Others, well they don’t matter; it’s me, me, me that only matters. I’m not self-centered. I’m not in denial the other person is. I expect, demand, that others cater to my wants, desires, needs, and neediness. Others must always, in all ways comply with my wants, desires, needs, and neediness. It’s I who desire, want, am entitled to love, nurturing, and well being. Others just don’t matter. I’m special now and all the time. I want, desire, demand to be treated special all, all the time. It’s my, my birthright now in the moment without doubt, reservation, to receive and to take. I’m a taker all the time! I don’t have to give anything of myself at anytime. Others are here to pleasure me, serve me, do for me, only me.
The attitude is unfortunately too, too common in the wide world. It’s a reason people just don’t get along with each other. Perhaps the above awareness will aid in helping people to stop, think, and question themselves? What do you think!
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
I Internalize and Embrace Humility so I Experience Serenity.
Ego, Hurt, Trauma, Resentment, prevent a human being from experiencing humility and serenity. It’s important to establish healthy boundaries in relationship to yourself within and in relationship to others outside of yourself. I’ve learned to cooperate with others and set healthy boundaries with each new experience. I’ve learn to maintain my self-esteem by experiencing humility.
It’s important to consider others wants, desires, and needs. When my neighbor phones after ten p.m. in the evening and requests that my clapping is preventing her from falling asleep; I can react and defend the fact that it’s my space and that she has no right to request that I remain silent at 10:10p.m. in the evening. However, we live in close quarters and I realize it’s important to consider the fact that my neighbor is employed and wakes up early in morning and works during the day.
My ego is impacted by her request and I resent the fact that she is intruding upon my space. I feel my feelings, my anger, release my resentment, (if I need to use self-forgiveness for surrendering) experience humility, and respond by making appropriate adjustments, accept her request. As I release my feelings and experience humility; I also experience serenity within. My ego is brused but by releasing my feelings; I experience serenity. I have embraced humility and have experienced serenity. The key is that I’ve been willing to have an healthy emotional experience and have spiritually grown as a result. My ego is strengthen with a profounder sense of humility.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Administration, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
The Co-Dependency Thermo-mentor!
How can we determine the degree, dimension, and depth of our co-dependence. Please take the “The Co-Dependency Thermo-mentor quiz. It consists of ten questions which you can answer in a range of from 1 to 10. If you reach the number 50 the odds are you have a high degree of co-dependency. I’ll be happy to send you the ten questions for a donation of a minimum of $2.00 paid to my paypal account located on the blogs. Just, click donation and E-mail me your E-mail address and I’ll send the ten questions to your E-mail address.
I’ve written quite a bit about co-dependence on my two blogs and now is the time to test yourself with my ten questions. The answers should give you an indication of your own co-dependency and the methods that I’ve written about should help you in choosing a path so that you can address the issue.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Busines Admin, M.A Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
