It takes a will, a willing, willingness, wanting to, enthusiasm, commitment, perseverance, persistence, patience, finding the courage, and support to “connect” with the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotions. “It’s scary”, “It’s really scary” many say who are challenged by issues like co-dependency. It requires us to adjust and change our belief system regarding feelings and emotions. There are five main emotions of anger, fear, sad, love, and joy. We think of anger, fear, sad as negative bad feelings and love, happiness and joy as the good feelings. We think that pain physical or emotional is also bad! If and when we begin to adjust our thinking and believing that feelings, emotion, and pain are energies that require attention then we can move away from that they are bad and negative. Perhaps, we can begin to think that they are signals that require attention. Perhaps, we can begin to think that they are warnings that require us to take action. The warning signals require us to address the feelings, emotions, pain by finding ways that resonate with us to effectively and efficiently to address and release them! Gradually, our belief systems can adjust and change! When individuals begin to connect with their feelings one is quick to recognize the abundance of accumulated repressed and suppressed emotions. The first thought is I certainly do not want to go there! It’s here where we must find the will and support to begin to do just that! Somehow we must find a way to go there again, and again. It’s here where our rediscovering those shadow and dark sides of our selves are hidden.
Agitation is common. It can occur for a variety of reasons. When someone is exposed to too much noise in the environment. One may have experienced too much frustration with school, friends, family, employment, an illness, a computer, reading and understanding instructions, or experiencing traffic on the freeway. Too much agitation can leave a permanent imprint of emotional hurt or even trauma from the present, or can be caused by unfulfilled past need!
One’s ability to think through an issue is hindered because of being in a state of “agitation”. If one is taking an exam and one is agitated, the test questions become far more difficult.
Animated Laughter with Feelings, (ALWF) is highly effective in contradicting a sense of agitation! A sense of “agitation” consists of different intensity of feelings. The connected healing breath facititates access to the “feelings” of agitation and enables the release and relinquishment of them.
As the feelings reflective of agitation are released and relinquished the ability to think returns. Flexible Intelligence returns. The ability to to think through an issue dramatically returns. There is greater ability to discern situations, and circumstances. One can better make decisions. One can communicate better with others. The communication is more matter of clarity, concrete, emotionally connected and anchored from the self. One experiences more alertness, awareness, self-confidence, freed up attention for the and in the environment.
In addition, one experiences more compassion and empathy for anothers situation and circumstances. There could be more tolerance for others for self, less self-stubborness and more flexibility. Agitation creates rigid inflexible thinking, feelings, reactions instead of flexibility and intelligent responsiveness.
Agnes experienced a great deal of agitation because of her experiencing stress on the freeway. The traffic in Los Angeles got to her again and again and again. However Agnas practiced ALWF on a continual basis. It enabled her to address and access the feelings reflective of her distress. She learned to release her agitation and relinquish it effectively and efficiently. Agnes learned to better handle the consequences of harboring in traffic that she experienced in Los Angeles. Agnes continues to practice ALWF for other issues as well.
Unfulfilled Frozen Chronic Need can perpetrate intense anxiety! We are often in touch with the intense anxiety but not in touch with and connected to the feelings reflective of the anxiety or the depth, degree and dimension of the intense feelings reflective of the range of emotions that reflect the anxiety. Once we have begun to connect with the intense feelings reflective of the emotions and begun to “let go” emotionally; we have begun the healing process. The work begins. We have begun to process the intense feelings reflective of the hard wired, deep seated intense feelings reflective of the emotions. We have begun to heal. As a result of this explanation, it becomes understandable the reasons for addictions. The anxiety is overwhelming and it leads us to become addicted to whatever gambling, tobacco, alcohol, sex, or substance abuse.
Dependent upon personality, vulnerabilities present, past, or chronic past needs may also facilitate addictions. However, the worst addictions are created with the past chronic frozen needs. ALWF has the capacity to facilitate the healing and resolution of all unfulfilled needs regardless of the physical and emotional hurt or trauma and individual experiences.
JV.
Warm Love
Giving or receiving warm genuine affectionate love from oneself or supportive warm affectionate love from others is a powerful and empowering contradiction to the categories and patterms of co-dependence. The use of affirmations, tantric love, meditation, hugs, listening to music, and socializing with others in a positive loving environment powerfully contridicts the co-dependency categories of control, compliance, denial, and low self-worth and low self-esteem issues.
Warm love given to oneself or received from others facilitates emotional breakthroughs and emotional shifts for an individual. If there are enough positive warm love experiences it can even manifest itself into a sustained life changing event!
JV.
LOVING RELATIONSHIPS
It’s natural for human beings to want loving relationships. Hurt and Trauma usually get in the way to manifesting loving relationships. Tiggered stimulations of distress get in the way of loving relationships.
Relationships have issues. Loving relationships have adequate tools to address effectively and efficiently the feelings reflective of the emotions that are triggered as a result of isssues. Clearly, unfulfilled past chronic needs arise in relationships. One issue that unfulfilled past chronic needs reflect is co-dependence.
The will and the willingness of both partners to effectively and efficiently, persistently, consistently to address the issues is essential. The learning to effectively and efficiently use emotional tools like peer counseling, dayad work, animated laughter with feelings, mirror work, and if need be rebirthing/primal sound can greatly contribute to expand and deepen a loving relationship.
Committment to the processes in processing the feelings reflective of the emotions are essential. Each partner must make first and foremost a committment to themselves and then to each other. The committment to do whatever it takes for the individual to become emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy is essential.
Certainly empathy and compassion for each other is essentail as well. It’s with empathy and compassion for each other where ones love and loving for each deepens and expands.
Tantric love deepens and expands and follows on the development of empathy and compassion for each other.
If the will and willingness is present then partners can and will experience an eternal spiritual love as well.
Blessings
Joel Vorensky
“MANIPULATION”
Our present, past, and chronic (sometimes frozen) unfulfilled needs can take charge of our behavior. Our unfulfilled needs can perpetuate a sense of or lack of self-acceptance. Our self-worth and esteem can suffer. This in turn can cause us to experience fear and a sense of anxiety. If we do not have an awareness of how our unfulfilled needs can trigger fear; we can then experience a struggle for emotional self-acceptance. It’s the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotions as it reflects unfulfilled frozen needs which have been repressed and are ingrained to the point of them being hard wired in our emotional bodies. They are hidden from our awareness. However, it’s the different intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror that reflect unfulfilled frozen chronic “need” that cause and that can impact low or a struggle with self-worth and self- esteem which in turn can impact healthy behaviors. We can experience grief and dysfunction. Our unfulfilled needs can result in both depression and anxiety and lack of self-acceptance. The DSM-IV diagnosis of manic depressive and bi-polar are quite common as a result.
When we shed, release, relinquish our deep seated, hard wired feelings, reflective of the emotion of fear then once again begin to integrate ourselves and once again experience a sense of self-acceptance, enhanced self-esteem, self-worth.
We can interrupt the pattern of low self-worth, self-acceptance, and self-esteem through and by practicing ALWF!
Our fear creates pain! We can suppress our pain and it can become ingrained in our emotional body. We then can become unaware of how our ingrained fear and its relationship to our unfulfilled needs can take charge of our behaviors.
Our ingrained fear reflects our unfulfilled (chronic) needs which can result in an unaware attempt to manipulative others to fill them. We become desperately terrified of our being, being rejected by others. We commonly label this as “insecurity”. The rejection amplifies our behavior to manipulate others to comply with and fill our chronic needs. They can cause us to irrationally manipulate others to get our unfulfilled needs (met) filled!
Control by laying guilt trips on others to fill our unfulfilled chronic frozen needs is all too common.
It’s our internalized fear of not getting our frozen needs met which can motivate us to become manipulative in our relationship with and to others. Our unaware frozen terror can perpetuate a behavior of manipulation and control over others. We unaware or aware manipulate others with an attempt to control! We take advantage of them. We falsely empower ourselves by attempting to control others and attempt to get others to comply with our unfulfilled chronic (sometimes frozen) needs.
If and when we make a conscious decision to transcend, transform our destructive, destructive behavior that we perpetuate upon others; we then can become aware of our underlying terror, belief, value, or personality trait, as it reflects our manipulation; it is than that we can begin to effectively address it.
We can effectively and efficiently address the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotion, fear through terror with ALWF.
As we gradually release the intensity of feelings; our unfulfilled chronic needs begin to dissipate and our “need” to manipulate and control others diminishes. Our need to control and our need for others to comply with filling our unfulfilled chronic needs dissipate. We empower ourselves authentically and reintegrate a part of ourselves lost when we were severely traumatized in and from the past.
When we meet human beings who have frozen unfulfilled chronic needs who have the tendencies to exhibit controlling, manipulative behaviors we can learn to set boundaries by saying no! We can set our boundaries! It requires that we have enough self-confidence and trust in ourselves to set firm boundaries. We can set boundaries without building walls between ourselves and them! We can accomplish this by staying alert and aware of our own feelings and emotions. If we are afraid to say no because of our own helplessness then we must address the intensity of our own feelings reflective of our own fear through terror and develop the emotional muscle to confidently say “no”.
We can set boundaries without building walls between ourselves and those that harbor controlling, manipulative behaviors. We can become emotionally strong “enough” to refrain from complying with others unfulfilled needs. We can address our own fears of rejection effectively and efficiently as well by practicing ALWF. In doing so, we develop the emotional muscle, trust, and self-confidence to stand-up for ourselves and just not go along with our beings, being manipulated and controlled. We just stop complying with others unfulfilled chronic needs. We take charge!
There is no room for denial in becoming aware of our frozen chronic needs as it reflects neither the cause of our need to control, or manipulate others nor the pull of our need to comply with our own unfulfilled need to be accepted by others; or our fear of rejection by others. We need to learn and learn again and develop more of our own self-acceptance. We can achieve this goal through feeling the intensity of feelings reflective of the range of emotions fear through terror, anger through rage, sadness through grief by practicing in a consistent manner ALWF.
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“MANIPULATION”
ALWF provides and facilitates peer pressures that encourage participants to engage together to have a spiritual experience reflective of a natural physiological release and relinquishment of dissonant energies. Healing wounds, hurts, truamas become practical, enjoyable, reinvigorating and most of all fun!
JV
If “Animated Laughter with Feelings” resonates with you then accessing any stress or distress and the release and relinquishment of feelings will result in your being experiencing a new sense of freedom. The mind becomes freed up from stressful and distressful thoughts. One becomes more settled emotionally. The soul experiences more peace and is more in harmony. The more content one experiences in mind, body, and spirit. It is then the human being experiences the preciousness of their lives.
JV
Is Holistic the Way to Go?
It depends on your point of view. I believe that traditional counseling and psychotherapy has a definite place as a component of the whole. It’s important to include other modalities to address effectively and efficiently issues. It’s important to take a humanistic holistic approach of mind, body, and spirit in approaches any and all issues. When we automatically exclude a method or methods then we are limiting ourselves to a narrow group of methods that may or may not do the job. Discerning the use of different methods at different times to address feelings, emotions, and unhealthy behaviors is important. I believe we should never eliminate any method that can enable us to facilitate our healing.
Best
JV
We can relinquish/release our inner conflicts and experience serenity by making the decision to turn our unfulfilled needs (biological relationships), our wants, our desires, our egos, our lives over to the care of God as we understand God and experience the bliss. It takes emotional work to make the definitive decision to experience our bliss and connection to our higher power. It is then that we can embrace the power of present time the power of the now!
Best
Joel V.
